Totally agree with this. Meyer doesn’t actually depict the sex scene itself, and can you imagine if she had? “Edward’s hands on my throat almost choked out my breath,” “his grip on my wrists almost made me cry as I looked up into his beautiful, perfect face,” etc….Lots of readers would be really alarmed at this being Bella’s first sexual encounter, and with good reason.
It’s one thing to have a bruise or two afterwards when you’re experienced in sex—maybe because you indicated to your partner that you like it rough—and another thing to look really beaten up after losing your virginity on your wedding night.
By eliding over the actual sex, ostensibly to be more “appropriate,” Meyer effectively normalizes abuse in a way that’s really inappropriate.
The only way those kinds of bruises would be appropriate is if Bella and Edward were into the BDSM scene, and they had agreed ahead of time that they would engage in that type of rough play. But that’s clearly not the case.
Shame on you, Stephanie Meyer.